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The Importance Of Self- Love On The Twin Flames Journey

Updated: Sep 21, 2023

When I first discovered the twin flame concept, I became fixated and eager to learn more. I searched through various online platforms such as YouTube, Pinterest, Quora, and Google to gain a deeper understanding.

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Twin Flames

Twin Flames are said to be the other half of your soul.

According to several posts and resources, there is a runner and chaser dynamic that switches back and forth over time. However, in most cases, twin flames do not end up together.

Before I worked on healing some of my core beliefs, I believed some of my past relationships were with my twin flame. But upon closer examination, I realized they were built on trauma bonds. Once I addressed and worked through the nature of these bonds, the illusion cleared, and I no longer felt attracted to them.

When you know what a healthy union is and you've done a substantial amount of shadow work, the twin flame dynamic will be a red flag for you.

My belief is the twin flame concept is based on a fantasy. This is because, at the very least, a union involves two people who want to be in the union and find ways to sort out their differences for it to work.

This is not the case regarding the twin flame concept. The twin flame dynamic is more of longing and the pursuit of another being. Or the idea of a relationship that may not be meant to be. This is why healing your heart, loving yourself, and seeking the Divine first will reduce the chances of being attracted to the twin flame concept. This may be hard for some to hear but what is meant for you will be for you.

We have lifetimes of history with people we are drawn to the most. That is how one person can feel like he or she is meant just for you.

From an astrological perspective, specific alignments i.e., a connection with Rahu can create an obsession along with other factors.

Soul Mates

The Soul is the natural atmakaraka or significator of life. Your soul is the driving force and has the final say in who you connect to when you connect and the purpose of the connection. Your Soul will only lead you to an experience of growth.

Unions emulate the phases of balance between the masculine and feminine energies of Shiva and Shakti. As souls experiencing the material world, we are reminded to turn inward and seek union with the divine, for this is the true union. Nothing external can substitute for our already complete selves.

When it comes to the idea of a soul mate, we are all on a mission of the soul that makes every person a potential soul mate. It is important to note that these connections do not always involve physical or sexual relationships. Rather, soul families, soul mates, and soul tribes are all formed through the mutual desire to help each other grow and develop. This growth may come through difficult experiences but ultimately leads us to understand and embrace divine love.

In essence, the theme is growth. As we grow through other people and experiences, we return to our light only to realize it was there all along.


This whole life experience is technically karmic, but I'll stay on topic. Karmic connections are specific connections with unfinished business. Some connections could be that you were owed something or that you owed someone.

Karmic connections are evident when examining two overlapping birth charts. These connections are part of a soul agreement. For example, you may have made an agreement with a particular individual to have children together. Additionally, if the Rahu and Ketu nodes are involved and the person has Ketu in the same sign as your Venus, this could indicate a connection from a past life. The placement of the Sun and Moon in synastry will also reveal the nature of the relationship.

Now that you understand how certain stories and beliefs can divide our attention and focus, healing will enable you to release these illusions. As a result, you will naturally be drawn towards individuals who share a similar conscious mindset and are in tune with the frequency of love.

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Taking the time to heal yourself is one of the most compassionate things you can do for the world around you. It allows you to break free from the cycle of self-sabotage and to let go of situations that no longer serve you. Remember that you are worthy of this gift of self-care.

Healthier Reflections

Your energy emits a message that others can perceive. If you express yourself authentically, those ready to assist you on your path will answer. If you consistently attract the same type of partner, it may indicate unresolved issues within yourself. Appreciate the understanding this brings and focus on self-love. By prioritizing your healing journey, you will eventually encounter a partner who supports you. At that point, you'll realize that past relationships led you to become the person you are today, who knows who she is, what she wants, and what she deserves.

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Anusa is an avid reader and loves to write. When she is not studying, or talking about astrology you can find her out and about in NYC with her family. 

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