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4 Must Read Books About Relationships

Updated: Aug 1, 2023

If you're dating or in a relationship and want African Centered resources to get back on the path to creating intentional communities you're in the right place.


This is a short list but these elders gave a framework for black people to start knowing ourselves so we can heal our relationships.



Spirit Of Intimacy

by Sobunfu Some

A big issue in our community is that we need more cohesiveness. We rarely know what each other needs because we have been trained to be separate. In this book I learned about cultural practices and healthy ways to resolve conflict in a union- so we can stay together.


This book is an effortless read with immense impact if you want to know how to have a union with Source at the center.


The Black Woman's Guide To Understanding The Black Man

by Sharahzad Ali


Queen Mother has been saying what some men have been saying for years but we didn't listen. I'll speak for myself here. When I listened without my pride I was able to receive what she said. And when men said it I understood more if that make any sense.


This has an abundance of context and guidance from an influential elder.



The Black Man's Guide To Understanding The Black Woman

by Sharahzad Ali

As I stated above, this book is a complimentary version of the previous book.


This version is also a great read so Women and men can help bridge the gap in understanding each other's needs better.


An Afrocentric Guide To A Spiritual Union

by Ra Un Nefer Amen

African American men and women have not had a rite of passage or the correct guidance on cultivating our faculties and working cooperatively in a partnership. In this book, Ra Un Nefer Amen explains the importance of a spiritual union and how we need the appropriate cultural practices to get back on track.


This book combines traditional practices and guidance from an influential elder.


We certainly need more than books to advance but we have to start somewhere. So I'm listing these books to share resources because like Issa Rae said "I'm rooting for everybody black".



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Anusa is an avid reader and loves to write. When she is not studying, or talking about astrology you can find her out and about in NYC with her family. 

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